You use trauma as an excuse.
We determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to past experiences. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences. We instead make out of them whatever suits our purposes.
You use feelings of inferiority as an excuse.
Feelings of inferiority are subjective interpretations rather than objective facts. You can see being shorter than average as inferior or as superior for not being intimidating and getting other people to relax.