What is the velvet hammer and how to use it when giving bad news

2 minute Read. It's time to bag the sandwich method of delivering bad news.

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You know, the technique where you say something nice, then drop in the criticism, and the end with something nice.

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Asking what the person suggests we do is powerful because people are persuaded most by their own words, says Baldridge.

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Giving negative feedback is important in many situations.

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Before You Try It. Words are power containers, says Baldridge.

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The tone you're seeking is help rather than reprimand, says Baldridge.

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