What to do if you feel people hate you
A person dealing with the belief that everyone around them hates them may find it challenging to manage or overcome this feeling. This can make it harder to make friends and build relationships and may also affect a person’s professional life. However, some strategies may help a person feel better about themselves and how others perceive them.
Look at a situation from the other person’s perspective
- A person who thinks that others hate them often believes that all the actions and words of others have a hidden meaning.
- To help overcome this, a person can try to look at the same situation from another person’s perspective and find explanations other than the person not liking them
Try to do what you wish others would do to you
If a person wants to go out with a group, they should proactively ask others to go out with them. Likewise, rather than waiting for someone to greet them, a person should say hello first.
If a person begins to act how they want others to treat them, they may start to see people responding in the same way.
When people mistreat you, it is them, not you
Some people are bullies and are abusive or mean to others. When a person is on the receiving end of this behaviour, it is not their fault.
Instead, the individual doing the abusing has some issues on which they need to work. A person should seek to remove the offending individual from their life.
Reframe the situation objectively
- Focus on all of the possible reasons why a situation worked out as it did
- The majority of reasons have nothing to do with other people’s feelings toward them
- Don’t look at a situation purely emotion-based, especially when things don’t go as you planned
Get exercise
People often find that staying physically active can improve their overall mood and outlook on life.
A person can try taking a walk several times a week, playing a sport, or doing another activity that they enjoy. A person may also benefit from spending time outdoors.
Stop Trying to Determine What Others are Thinking
- Trying to determine the negative thoughts that other people may have can affect a person’s mental health
- Take most people’s words at face value – if they say that they like something, they do
- If they do not want to get dinner, maybe they are not hungry