5 Reasons You’re Having a Hard Time Being Mindful
Every time I talk about mindfulness, I hear: “My brain is way too busy to be mindful.” “My ADD is so bad; I just can’t focus.” “The last thing I need is another item on my to-do list.” I understand why you might be having a hard time getting started:
You don’t understand what mindfulness is
Mindfulness isn’t about being perfectly present and focused at all times. It’s about choosing to pay attention to the moment with kindness and curiosity.
You’re only practicing when you’re upset
Our brains have a hard time learning or doing something new when we are under stress.
You’re trying to do it alone
Mindfulness asks us to swim against the tide of these mental habits. We need support in this practice, with books, lectures, classes, and conversations with like-minded friends.
Be curious
Stop wishing reality was different and get curious about it
- You might learn that your coworker is going through a messy divorce
- Life would feel a little bit easier
- Remember that we were up all night with a fussy kid and give ourselves a break
Make it smaller
You’re making it bigger than it needs to be