‘Stresslaxation’ is real. Science explains why it happens and how to get past it
Stresslaxation is when you try to relax, only to find yourself overwhelmed with feeling stressed and having negative thoughts. This can turn into a destructive, vicious cycle in which they can’t alleviate the stress they’re experiencing-which could result in having more negative emotions and panic attacks.
You’re denying you’re stressed
Pretending that a problem doesn’t exist-also known as denial-is one of the least effective coping strategies for stress.
- When you’re in denial, your body continues sending stress signals to prompt you to take action and resolve your problems. This is why attempting (and failing) to relax instead of actually addressing the causes of your stress can make you feel more stressed out.
You’re worrying about what other people will say
Pursuing a passion for the wrong reason can cause a person to push themselves to the limit – working despite being sick, or not taking time off to destress.
- Taking a short “mental break” from what you’re passionate about may be helpful.
You can’t make up your mind
Limit the number of decisions you need to make on the day you want to do something relaxing.
- Plan how and why you are going to do it, and how long you will do it for. Remember why you’re trying to relax.