The Introverts Guide to Winning Meetings: How I Learned to Show Up
Unleashing the power of introversion in a meeting environment can be a game-changer. Discover how one introvert transformed their approach, turning perceived weaknesses into strengths, and began to command attention and respect in meetings.
Speak up and share your perspective more
As a manager, speaking in meetings without an invitation is incredibly hard. Through many conversations with peers, workshops, and moments of self-reflection, you’ll find your voice
- Some of the key catalysts for her evolution were sharing her growth area with colleagues and opening up about her shyness and imposter syndrome
Say something stupid
If I don’t hear from one of your peers that you said something stupid, you’re not sharing enough
- This exchange made me feel safe to fail
- Leading is hard work, you need to take chances, fail, learn, and keep putting yourself out there
Don’t be afraid to speak, even if it feels small
Sometimes, if she can’t add to the conversation, she’ll be additive
- Ask more questions
- As someone that has spent time on this topic, what is your perspective
- Also, ask those who haven’t spoken yet if they have anything to say
Visualize and emulate the leader you wish to be
Look for a leader that looks you in the eye, has a passion for the job, and makes you feel like the only person in the room
Do the homework
Read the pre-read, reach out to others to learn more about their context, background, or opinions, and look up related and helpful information
- Pick an agenda item to be the expert in, and ponder the topic and dig up information in advance
If you can’t show up in the meeting, show up after
Continue the conversation by following up
- Include a call-to-action that spurs the conversation
- This can be done in-person in a meeting or digitally via email
- Want to hear from peers that have been holding back
Speak with your body
Where and how you sit matters
Stop Taking Notes and Speak More
When you take notes, you speak less and add more value by speaking more
- There’s nothing wrong with helping out and taking notes, but be intentional about when and how you do so
- If you have the background, domain expertise, or an alternate perspective, ask someone else to take notes so you can speak up
Realizing your responsibility
Speaking up about your needs and wants becomes less about you and more about your team, discipline, and the users you serve
- As a research lead, you represent your team’s learnings and stories. You owe it to them to speak up.
Ask for what you need
Pre-read the document of what will be discussed in the meeting
- This allows you to ponder others’ thoughts before sharing them
- During the meeting, voice your thoughtful and measured perspective
- Ask for agenda items and purpose to help you prepare
Help your meeting attendees be successful
Think about how you can serve meeting attendees
- What can she tell attendees to make them successful or knowledgeable?
- By embracing this servant mindset, you’ll be able to help your team and express your perspective, as well as yourself.