What Happened When I Leaned In to My Fear of Not Achieving
Embracing fear, especially the fear of not achieving, can be a transformative experience. Discover how leaning into this fear can lead to unexpected growth, resilience, and a newfound perspective on success and failure.
Everything you do is to steer yourself towards or avoid feelings that you interpret as positive or good
End relationships rather than face your own failings within them
- Blame others or the world rather than confront something you’ve done wrong
- Imprison yourself and everyone around you in tunnel vision
- Make knee-jerk decisions in reaction to feeling Not Good Enough
Authenticity
By being real with someone, it’s possible to create space for a different type of connection.
- Ryan Vaughn February 25, 2021
- We don’t have to like everything life throws our way. If we view challenges as stressful setbacks, there’s an opportunity to shift our perspective and grow from our experiences.
Confronting Feelings of Inadequacy
Stop putting yourself through such ambitious hell, and simply deal with what is there.
- By doing so, you can see the pattern of your mind’s machinations in a way that demystified it, and offer yourself a choice I never knew I had: stop achieving to run faster away from your own inadequacy, or simply stop.
Taming the Fear of Not Doing Enough
By sticking with the feeling without succumbing to the intense urge to do something productive in response, she was able to develop a familiarity with it.
- The fear that she’d jumped through hoops of fire to avoid is simply a series of bodily sensations combined with a reflexive urge to achieve
- For a long time, she let this fear drive her actions, forcing her into suboptimal, fear-based decisions, and unproductive, repetitive patterns