What information do you need in order to change?
When you’re stuck, you need feedback. Feedback is a valuable source of information that you can use to effect the changes you want. You need information that tells you what you’re doing well and where you’re going wrong.
How feedback works in behavior change
Having direct feedback on the results of your specific actions can reinforce positive changes, help you develop habits, and inspire you to take further action.
Feedback also helps you set goals for what you can reasonably accomplish. Trying to make ongoing systemic changes in life without feedback on those changes is hard. Feedback gives you the information you need to improve.
Don’t be afraid to ask for feedback
- Asking how you could be a better partner, team member, friend, or leader from the people best placed to give you accurate feedback is a requirement for improving
- If you want honest feedback, prepare yourself to listen to things you might not want to hear
- Explain that you are looking to identify your blind spots and that you’re genuinely seeking information that will help you improve
The power of feedback
- When giving others feedback, ask yourself what information they might need to make a meaningful change
- Be aware of what you’re saying and how you say it
- Make it personal, provide specific examples, and notice how things have changed over time
- Choose your timing wisely