A Psychologist’s Guide to Achieving Success | Dr. Julie Gurner | Knowledge Project Podcast
Dr. Julie Gurner, an executive performance coach and psychologist, shares her expertise on achieving success in this episode of The Knowledge Project Podcast.
She explores the significance of high standards, the role of feedback, the necessity of difficult conversations, and the impact of relationships on personal and professional growth.
The Necessity of Difficult Conversations
Difficult conversations, when approached with intentionality and a collaborative mindset, can lead to productive outcomes.
Shifting the perspective from conflict to collaboration can facilitate these conversations.
Managing negative emotions and stepping into one’s role, especially in leadership positions, can foster effective communication.
The Impact of Relationships on Growth
The quality of one’s relationships can significantly influence personal and professional growth.
Phasing out unproductive or toxic relationships can be challenging but necessary.
Being upfront about one’s priorities and limitations can foster healthier and more productive relationships.
The Concept of ‘Fighting Up Front’
Addressing problems early on can prevent larger issues in the future.
This approach, referred to as ‘fighting up front’, emphasizes the importance of being proactive rather than reactive and having difficult conversations sooner rather than later.
Overcoming Cognitive Ruts
Cognitive ruts, or patterns of thinking that limit personal growth, can be overcome by expanding one’s thinking and challenging usual ways of operating.
Diversifying experiences and knowledge can also contribute to breaking free from cognitive ruts.
The Principle of Detachment
Viewing business or work as something you do, not who you are, can lead to better decision-making and objectivity.
This detachment can prevent emotional attachment from skewing decision-making and potentially shielding you from valid criticisms or operational issues.
Avoiding the ‘Shiny Object Syndrome’
‘Shiny object syndrome’, where individuals or businesses frequently change course to pursue the latest trend or idea, can lead to a lack of focus and potentially hinder long-term success.
Maintaining focus and consistency in pursuing goals is crucial for achieving success.
Career vs Job
Individuals who view their work as a career are likely to be more invested and hold themselves to a higher standard.
Conversely, those who view their work as just a job may treat it more transactionally and may miss out on opportunities for growth and development.
The Power of Caring Deeply
When people truly care about what they’re doing, they naturally hold themselves to a higher standard.
However, this can also lead to becoming too attached and taking things personally.
Balancing deep care for one’s work with a healthy detachment can lead to better performance.
The Importance of Intentionality in Communication
Intentionality in communication, especially in difficult conversations, can significantly impact the recipient’s perception and response.
Framing feedback as opportunities or challenges, rather than highlighting weaknesses, can foster a more empowering and engaging dialogue.
Setting Boundaries in Relationships
Setting boundaries in relationships is crucial for personal growth.
Being upfront and direct about your limitations and needs can help maintain healthier relationships.
Recognizing patterns of negativity and consistently violated boundaries can help phase out relationships that are not beneficial or are toxic.
