Mindsight – Daniel J. Siegel
Mindsight is a repackaging of awareness and meditation, which they now call “mindfulness.” It is worth reading, though.
Mindsight is the ability to reflect on the relationship that exists between your body and mind, combining emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and stoicism.
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When done correctly, it can assist you in dealing with trauma and uncertainty, improving relationships with loved ones, and controlling your emotions.
3 Lessons that Help You Develop Mindsight
To cultivate a balanced, harmonic self, imagine yourself as a river.
Observation, objectivity, and openness are the three pillars of mindsight.
In your relationships, be receptive rather than reactive.
Mindsight is by far the best of all the Jedi mind tricks you could learn.
Getting aware of your thoughts
Mindsight is a set of psychological steps we can take to understand and shape our inner selves in the most beneficial way for our well-being.
Meditation is an example of mindsight practise because it makes us aware of our thoughts and breathing.
Mindsight, on the other hand, is much more than a meditation you can do when you have time to be alone and reflect. Instead, it is a tool that will assist you in dealing with situations when they become overwhelming.
The Three Pillars
Mindsight is supported by three pillars:
- Observation is the practise of becoming aware of the moment when unwanted thoughts divert your attention.
- Objectivity is the ability to observe your thoughts and feelings without passing judgment.
- Accepting your thoughts and emotions as part of who you are and not allowing them to stress you out is what it means to be open.
Find Your Inner Balance
Extremes are never a good thing. To achieve a goal or shape your inner being, do not follow anyone else’s plan. Instead, concentrate on finding your own inner equilibrium.
Begin by acknowledging that all of your emotions, thoughts, and actions are a part of who you are.
Stay calm and balanced, like a river
Consider yourself to be a gently flowing river. You will not clash with the people in your life or your surroundings; instead, you will embrace them, make room for them, flow around them, and stay on your original path.
Accept that it’s normal for your actions, emotions, and thoughts to fall on a spectrum, and try to balance emotional and rational thinking so that neither takes over completely.
Be Receptive, Not Reactive
When you are reactive, every complaint from your partner feels like a threat. You immediately go into freeze-fight-or-flight mode, attempting to pretend nothing happened and ignore the problem, running away, or attacking your better half—neither of which are appropriate responses and will result in a major communication breakdown.
But if you can stay open to your partner’s emotions, you’ll always be able to work things out.